One of the biggest thieves of joy in life is comparison. Comparing yourself to others is so dangerous, because there is no winning. If you look at someone else’s life with envy, you are discounting your own life. If you look at someone else with feelings of superiority and arrogance, it’s like you need to put someone else down in order to feel important. Either way, no good can come from comparing yourself to others.
So why do we do it?
If comparison is such a negative habit, why is it so common? The reason I bring up this topic is because it is something I find myself doing sometimes, even though I know it is wrong. Deciding to never compare ourselves to anyone else ever again is simply unrealistic, but I think we can choose to alter our way of thinking whenever possible and make small changes along the way.
Instead of being jealous of someone else’s successes, why not celebrate your own? Instead of looking down on someone else for not being at your level, why not encourage them? No two people are in the exact same place in life. That person you are envious of might be looking back at you wishing they were in your shoes. The only way to overcome the chains of comparison is to find true joy in the life you have. No, not every moment will be a happy one, but instead of feeling sorry for yourself or thinking “if only…” or “I would be happier if…,” know that the difficult moments in life are some of the most important times, because they are preparing you and shaping you for the future.
“You shall not covet your neighbour’s house; you shall not covet your neighbour’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbour’s.”